Thoughts on Love

Every writer has there topics that they click with. If you are familiar with my topics you know I like to write about the mysteries of time, theology, and love. There are so many different thoughts on love. It sometimes makes you wonder which definition is true. People use love in relation to a lifestyle, a mere emotion, or even an arousing feeling, or quite simply put pleasure. With all these definitions, that at times can contradict we are still stuck with the question what is love. Well one needs to understand the context in which the word love is used because depending on the context the defintion of such a small word could be varied greatly, even at times to rather opposite extremes. In this writing we will discuss what I believe love is based on three things. First, the Bible, as well as other less important theological books. Second, our culture, and third my own personal opinions.

First  of all I want to quote C.S. Lewis in the first of four types of love. Love for things Subhuman is in his book “The Four Loves.”  Lewis said, “It is an old discovery that pleasures are divided into two classes; those that are not pleasures at all unless preceded by desire, and those which are pleasures in their own right… An example of the first would be a glass of water. This is a pleasure if you are thirsty, and a great one if you are very thirsty. But no one probably except in obedience to thirst or a doctor’s orders would pour himself a glass for the fun of it. An example of the second class would be the unexpected pleasures of the smell- of sweet peas on your morning walk. You were in want of nothing completely contented, but it was still a pleasure.” (Lewis 25-26) He goes on to say an addiction of the second kind can turn into a needed desire of the first. This is a love for things sub human. This is the most basic and least complex form of love, because that which you love has no potential to love you back, so can it really be love. I think a desire of things not human can only be mentally processed as a strong like.

Second, Phileo or brotherly love. This is brought out in 1 Peter 3:8 Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. This is the type of love we need to have for each other. We need to have compassion for one another and be a united body as a family.

Love type 3 is an erotic love meant to be shared between one man and one woman only within the limits of marriage. It is considered to be Eros named for primordial god of sexual love and beauty in the Greek Mythos. He was also called… that is right his Roman name is Cupid. There is debate on whether or not this is the love found predominantly in Song of Solomon or if that book is symbolic of God’s love for the Church, but could it be both? The reason it could be an example of the former is because some areas of the book can be quite risque. Gasp, the Bible talks about that type of relationship (thats inconcievable). Why yes it does.

The last type of love is by far the greatest. It is the “love” lifestyle Agape. Found in 1 Cor 13 I believe this to be the grandest type of the four and the most complex. It requires so much, and the only person who has ever mastered this love is Christ. This love is irrational to the world. In fact, this love doesn’t become rational until one first experiences it. I would not have agape for anyone if it were not for Christ’s saving love (Love being Agape) he gave us the ultimate model to follow. So live the life of love.


Joseph “Care Bear” Lillie


P.S. Always Love, Always


Sources used

Lewis, C.S. The Four Loves. Harcourt, Brace and Company. New York. 1960. Print

NIV Study Bible & Lexicon. Web.


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My name is Joseph Elon Lillie VI (that's right the sixth). I am a junior in college. I have learned we spend so much time caught complaining and focusing on things that don't matter so the things that matter slip through our fingers like water. when it comes to what matters, I have learned that nothing matters to me as much as love, hope, and faith. These things keep me focused on the goal. I have had good times where I was happy, and I have had times of despair; but my blessing has always outweighed the sorrow that I have felt. I am currently in the middle of my first novella. Enjoy the journey with me as I discover the things that really matter in life.
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One Response to Thoughts on Love

  1. jelillie says:

    Dear CareBear. Congrats on getting LovExpressed up and running! Loved this post and you are so right about Agape it is irrational to the world and impossible to live without Christ’s help! Praise God He is so willing to help us!

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